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Excel In Life

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How To Excel In Life

Everyone has a different idea about what it is to excel at life. Your life experiences are very different to those of other people, and it’s these experiences that have a big influence on how you think of yourself as a person, the world, your idea of success and your goals. To excel at life doesn’t mean that things will run smoothly all the time, that you will realise all your dreams, or that you will overcome all failures. The following few hints and tips will show you how to excel in life.

Determine how you want to excel

Write down a list of the values, moral attributes, and ideals that you feel are important. These could be things like being healthy or being a good friend. Ideals and values are ideas in life that you feel you need to excel at. These are different to goals, because goals are definite actions that you can complete.

List all the ways that you can excel in your life

First, you must think about what it means to you to excel at life, your values, and the type of life that you would like to have. It will take a little time to sift through all the questions before you decide what it truly means to you to excel at life. Make sure to include short-term, long-term, small successes and big dreams.

Have a journal for the sole purpose of making notes of this new vision of your life and the way you want yourself to succeed. List all the ways that you could excel in life; your biggest aims, small things like washing the dishes each day and even those that are unrealistic.

You will probably find that your idea of excelling in life could start with some small changes to do with your finances, your health, romance, family, or even character traits like being more compassionate or improving your friendships.

List all your goals

Read through your list of ways to excel, and then look at your list of ideals and values. Which goals emphasise your views of life and the type of person you aspire to be? Group together the ways that you want to excel, like hobby goals, career goals, friendship goals, family goals and health goals. Now group these into long- and short-term goals such as weight loss/gain, becoming a successful journalist, or washing the dishes each day.

Prioritise those goals

Once you have an idea about how to excel in life, get started on prioritising those goals. Write down those long-term goals that will have you feeling as if you are indeed excelling in life. Make a note of the goals that you can work on every day that will make you feel that your life is moving forward in a positive way.

 

Focus On Goals

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4 Easy Ways To Stay Focused On The Goals You’ve Set For Yourself

When setting goals for yourself, there is no doubt that you have good intentions. Like most people however, you probably have a huge struggle in reaching these goals. Your whole idea of sticking to your goals is to reap the benefits and make a success of your life. However, things happen in life that throw you off-course, and you find it impossible to focus on your goals. Here are 4 easy ways to help you stay focussed on the goals you’ve set for yourself.

  1. Narrow down your list of goals

It’s great that you’ve set yourself goals in life, but you must be realistic about it. You will notice very soon that you become sidetracked by one goal, and can’t work on another. Instead, narrow your list down to 2 or 3 goals, and set yourself a deadline in which to achieve them, and this applies to daily, medium, and long-term goals. Your daily goals should tie in with your medium and long-term goals, so that you can see every day, the progress you are making, which will give you the motivation you need to carry on.

  1. Break down your long-term goals

Large goals can be extremely overwhelming, and can cause you to lose confidence and the motivation you need to carry on. Break up your large goals into smaller steps, each with its own particular achievable task. Instead of having to focus on one large goal, you can concentrate on the smaller steps that you need to achieve in order to complete the entire goal. This will make it less daunting, and your confidence and motivation will be boosted with each step you complete. Treat yourself after accomplishing each step, as this will help you to maintain your momentum and passion for achieving that large goal you’re aiming for.

  1. Record your progress

It is important to keep a record of your progress. Seeing in black-and-white how your goal is progressing, will motivate you into taking the next step. Write down your thoughts and feelings too, so if you ever attempt the same type of goal at some point in the future, you can evaluate your notes and create the best plan as to how to stay focused on the goals you’ve set for yourself.

  1. Tell others about your goals

Provided that your goals aren’t too personal or confidential, telling someone you trust will make you more accountable. When your friends and family see that you are honouring your goals, they will greatly respect the fact that you’ve kept your word. These people will give you the encouragement you need when the going gets a bit rough, and will celebrate with you all the way, whenever you succeed in achieving any of the goals you are trying to achieve. It’s their support and encouragement that will help you to stay focussed on the goals you’ve set for yourself.

 

5 Step Problem Remedies

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5 Ways To Remedy All Your Problems

We all have problems, but the secret is to know how to deal with them that decides whether we can lead a happy and contented life. Read on, and discover 5 easy ways to solve all your problems.

  1. Solve the problem

Believe it or not, but sometimes it is that easy. Say for instance you have a mile-long list of “to do” things. You can moan about the list, resent it, or wish you didn’t have it at all, but that won’t do anything to help your situation. All you have to do is grab the bull by the horns, sort out your list one-by-one until you reach the end, and there you have it, problem solved!

  1. Steer clear of the problem

If you wait long enough, some of those things on your “to do” list will go away on their own. For example, if sewing a button on your child’s shirt is on your list, wait long enough, and the shirt will be too small for your child. No more problem!

  1. Break the problem down into manageable sizes

Solving a problem in stages is sometimes the best way to go about it. Your “to do” list wouldn’t be as overwhelming if you set yourself a target to do just three items in a day. It might take a little longer, but this is just one of the easy ways to solve all your problems on that very long “to do” list.

  1. Tackle the underlying issue

It could be that the problem isn’t the length of your “to do” list, but that you are taking on too many responsibilities. If that’s the case, then the actual problem is that you simply cannot say no. Is working on the list your way of facing something else that’s worrying you? Or is it perhaps that the long list of responsibilities makes you feel important? If so, then all you must do is start saying no when you have to, and your “to do” list will suddenly be a whole lot shorter and more manageable.

   5. Cope as best you can

Sometimes problems just have to be managed, end of story. There are no easy ways to solve problems, get around or reduce them. Sometimes the problem is not a cover-up for some larger issue, but is simply a problem that you need to deal with as best you can. Sure, you can prioritize, and eliminate one or two things, but there are days when you just have to grit your teeth and cope as best you can. Keep your stress levels down by going for a walk, breathing deeply, counting to ten, or praying, but just do whatever it takes to get through the problem in the best possible way.

 

Bite Of The Cherry

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How To Not Miss Out On Taking A Bite Of The Cherry

How many times have you been told to “grab the opportunity”? Probably more times than you can remember, right? We all get given these golden opportunities, but many of us simply ignore them, only to regret later in life that because we didn’t take it when it was handed to us on a plate, we probably lost out on having our life changed for the better.

It’s up to you as an individual to recognise these opportunities when they come along, grab them, and then use them in the best way possible. Following are a few ways to help you to see opportunities when they arise, or how to not miss out on taking a bite of the cherry, as it were.

Always be ready to grab that opportunity

Opportunities come along all the time, so keep yourself mentally prepared, and when any opportunity comes your way, grab it with both hands right away. Remember too, that even the smallest of opportunities has the potential to turn into something big at a later stage.

Choose between happiness and pain

Having an opportunity come your way is your chance to turn your life around. Many people make the choice of taking a bite of the cherry next time round, and when that next time doesn’t happen, spend the next week, month or year being angry with themselves and resenting the fact that they didn’t grab the opportunity immediately.

The trick is to understand that there will be difficulties attached to the opportunity either before it occurs, or even with it, but this should not make you decide to wait for the next opportunity to come along. This might be the only chance you’ll get, and even if there are problems involved, don’t you think you should at least give it a try?

Give yourself a chance

If an opportunity does ever come your way, don’t waste it! At least take a chance and give it a try so that you don’t spend a lot of time regretting your bad decision about not taking a bite of the cherry. This might be the only chance you’ll ever have to really get your life back on track again.

The bottom line is, be smart when that opportunity comes along and grab it with both hands! If you don’t, then you’re just like many other people who complain about their lives and blame others. Learn from the experiences you have along the way, and you’ll never have to kick yourself for not taking a bite of the cherry!

Drama Out Of A Crisis

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How To Stop Making A Drama Out Of A Crisis At Work

Are you one of those people who goes into a complete panic whenever there’s a crisis at work? Severe stress and anxiety can result in a total meltdown, which is not only embarrassing, but is also damaging to your health. Being in this state makes it impossible for you to focus on the work you need to do.

Following are a few hints and tips on how to stop making a drama out of a crisis at work, to help you remain calm and composed whenever a serious situation occurs at work.

  • Take a few seconds to think about what has happened – don’t react immediately, but rather have a bit of patience and think carefully about the situation. Is it going to matter in a year’s time? If it is, and it doesn’t involve you, then step back and simply view things from the sidelines. This will help you to both stay calm and make the correct decisions
  • Don’t be negative – your mind might be filled with negative thoughts in stressful situations, and the more you dwell on these negative thoughts, the less chance you have of calming down. Don’t imagine the worst-case scenario, but rather push aside the negative thoughts and focus on anything positive
  • Keep the “what ifs” to a minimum – asking yourself or your colleagues this question when there’s a crisis at work, will only cause that feeling of panic to escalate. Those “what if” situations might never happen anyway
  • Stay healthy – take proper care of your body and you will be more than capable of handling any sticky situation at work. Exercise regularly, eat a balanced diet, and get plenty of restful sleep. Exercise helps the body to function at its best and reduces the level of stress hormones.
  • Limit your caffeine intake – don’t drink that coffee you crave during a stressful situation, because you could be making matters worse for yourself. Caffeine is known to trigger adrenaline that will boost your energy and physical power, but is usually followed by immense fatigue and in some cases, irritability too. During a crisis at work, the best thing to drink is plain water, and not coffee, energy drinks, or soda

Apart from the above hints to help you stop making a drama out of a crisis at work, another good way to avoid becoming stressed out during these situations, is to simply walk away and have an hour or two of “me” time. This will give you time to think things over properly without panicking, and you will be in a better frame of mind to approach the issue in a calm, relaxed manner.