There may be a million fish in the sea, but not all of them are catches.
With the introduction of online dating, the process of finding the perfect man has become even more complicated.
Here are five stereotypical types of dating character, how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Pickup Pete is extremely confident and self-assured when it comes to dating. He spends his time reading books on how to meet women and testing out the techniques. He is charming and attentive but enjoys the single life too much to commit.
Spot him: He’ll NEVER seem nervous or flustered, and will always have a stock line in any situation.
Deal with him: If you’re not looking for long-term, Pete can be a dream come true. He’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful, fascinating girl in the world, and he is the perfect cure for a bad break-up. Enjoy having him around for a year but if he fails to mention the future after that, end it.
Pickup Pete: He’s extremely confident and self-assured when it comes to dating but he’ll never commit
Timewaster Trev: He uses the latest dating apps to give his ego a boost- for him it’s all about the attention his online profile gets
Timewaster Trev uses the latest dating apps to give his ego a boost – for him, it’s all about the attention his online profile gets. In reality, he actually lacks confidence which is why he is unable to hold down a relationship and usually strings girls along until he gets bored. He will turn up late to dates and spends most of the time checking the hits on his dating profile.
Spot him: His online dating profile is active 24/7. He makes last-minute plans, and you’ll be sure to receive sporadic texts from him when you least expect to.
Deal with him: Strict boundaries will protect you. Don’t accept dates with less than two days notice, and end things after three months if he hasn’t introduced you to his friends.
Friend Zone Fred
Friend Zone Fred lacks confidence and always ends up as just a friend. He treats women with respect but finds that he is usually the shoulder to cry on. You won’t find Friend Zone Fred on dating websites; he finds them too daunting.
Spot him: After five dates, he still hasn’t tried to kiss you. Or if he has, he asked permission first.
Deal with him: He is perfect husband material but his self-confidence just needs a bit of a boost. Try complimenting him – this may just be the assurance he needs to escape the Friend Zone.
Friend Zone Fred: He lacks confidence and always ends up as just a friend but he would make perfect husband material
Shy Simon: He is an introvert and finds it very difficult to talk to women so you need to make it easy for him to ask you out
Shy Simon is an introvert and finds it very difficult to talk to women. Simon would love a girlfriend but assumes that he is not attractive enough and retreats into his own world in order to protect himself from getting hurt. He stays at home instead of going out and does not have a large group of male friends as he tends to be overshadowed by larger personalities.
Clingy Clive: He spends too much time worrying and too little time enjoying himself – lay down the rules from the get-go
Spot him: He’s the man you feel isn’t interested in you, yet is always hanging around. He may often give you one-word answers if you try to strike up a conversation.
Deal with him: Make it easy for him to ask you out – mention a film you’d love to see, or a new bar you’d like to visit. Patiently wait while he stammers out a compliment. Ask his advice on things, then tell him how much you appreciate it.
Clingy Clive spends too much time worrying and too little time enjoying himself. The relationship starts positively but his lack of confidence soon gets the better of him and he can end up scaring women away.
Spot him: He sends five texts on the way home after a first date. He sulks if you don’t return calls or messages within five minutes. He calls you his girlfriend after two weeks.
Deal with him:This kind of behaviour can make you feel special initially but long-term, it could be a nightmare. Make sure that you lay down the ground rules from the get-go – this could break a bad habit immediately. No incessant calls or texts allowed.
Source: Daily Mail 6.12.13